We sat in the dining room after having breakfast on a peaceful Sunday morning. After talking about various topics, she stared into my eyes and said, „you have to be intentional about life.“
Speechless with a lot of questions written all over my face, I nodded as she continued, „You have to a plan for your life. Something you wish to accomplish, a position you would love to reach, a status you would love to attain. Where would you like to be in the next five to ten years? “
I have asked myself that question before. Where would I like to be in the next ten years? I have been asked this question in some job interviews. I have been able to provide beautiful answers, but the way she asked it made me think about it again.
Where would you like to be in the next ten years?
Having a plan helps in living life intentionally. It gives you a reason to wake up every morning filled with purpose and goals to achieve. It helps me to be grateful for having another chance, another day to make moves and take some steps towards my goals.
But I asked her, „what about if the plans do not work? What about if the winds of life blow you in a different direction?“
She answered, „Tobi, you have to be determined. Don’t give up easily. Who says that everything will work out as planned? You should focus on your goals, be flexible with your plans and be ready to make compromises without having to bury your dreams.“
It made me reflect on the university days when I had to spend hours programming a robot in the computer laboratory. It always involved planing its trajectories. The path and direction the robot is to follow. THE task of the robot and its behaviour when it finds an obstacle on its route. I had to plan the plan of the robot, I had to consider the fact that my initial plan might not go as planned.
When done with the programming and the robot gets its mission, it always has the intention of completing the task even if it is as simple as a pick and drop assignment. Every move it makes is to achieve its goal. Even when there are disturbances or obstructions on the way, it would pause, evaluate the situation, recalculate the route to its destination, then move towards its goal.
Sitting with my advisor at that moment made me realize how applicable that programming task is to my life in terms of being intentional about accomplishing my goals. It taught me that I should not just give up when faced with a little obstacle. I should pause, evaluate my situation – how did I get there? Are there things I could have avoided, are there things that I did not see? Are there factors I did not consider? Learning from my mistakes and experience and then use that to recalculate how I am supposed to move forward.
A lot of times, because of our vast knowledge, we think that we have it all figured out, but then we find ourselves in a loop repeating the same mistakes in the same or different forms. Just as the robot is directly or indirectly dependent on the manufacturer and programmer, who knows all about its functionalities and capabilities, it is helpful to dig deep while evaluating our stand and situation of things. A lot of people do this by meditating, visiting a therapist, praying or reading. I have learnt to look up to my creator for guidance, for answers to difficult questions and to rescue me from difficult situations. Because no matter how much I read and research, my wisdom and knowledge are limited. I cannot answer even all my personal questions.
Richard Templar wrote something in his book „THE RULES OF LIFE“ which stuck with me. He said that it is essential to have a plan for your plan. A Plan is helpful so that after the storm of life is over and the dust has settled, You can ask yourself, „where was I? What was I doing before the storm started? Where was I heading to before the unexpected interruption?“ It helps to prevent us from just flowing with the current of the river like a dead fish.
From the beginning of this podcast journey, I have been learning about living life intentionally. Ikeoluwapo Oluwayemi taught me to be intentional about my confidence. I should know and be confident that I am more than enough. Winnie Bartholomew taught me to be intentional about my happiness, Theresa Adebisi taught me to be intentional about keeping a heart of gratitude, Fikayomi Agbola taught me to be intentional about my self-image and a lot more. I am grateful for everything that I am blessed to learn from each guest on this podcast.
You are teaching me to be intentional about learning more, to be intentional about improving myself, to be intentional about my personal growth and development.
There are a lot of ways to live life intentionally and be filled with purpose. What are you intentional about? How are you living life intentionally? Kindly share with me on Instagram or Twitter or through email. The information is in the show note.
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Richard Templar wrote something in his book THE RULES OF LIFE which stuck with me. He said that it is essential to have a plan for your plan. Having a plan helps in living life intentionally. It gives you a reason to wake up every morning filled with purpose and goals to achieve. It helps me to be grateful for having another chance, another day to make moves and take some steps towards my goals. What are you intentional about? How are you living life intentionally? Kindly share with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tobiojekunle/
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